Your Love Lives

[Misha]

The guy obviously has to be an overall nice person, but being too nice can be a turn off. It definitely is for me. Guys that are over-eager to please just seem too meek, if that makes sense. I'd rather have a confident, bold but nice guy.

[Jazzin']

Mmmhmmm, preach it gurl
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[Mikka]

I agree with Dice- there's a difference between genuine niceness and ulterior motive flirty niceness. That's sort of where I was going with the objectification thing. And dear lord can it be awkward!
I actually really love guys who are genuinely nice.
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Lovebar by Valor. Thanks so much!

[Ryuuka of the 7th Flame]

We all appear to be in agreement now. How unusually pleasant.
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The ember is dust before the wind...

[JCMS]

I haven't been here for a while but I really need to throw it off. Thanks guys.

Guess I've just been played at again.

Met the girl at the last student union's BoD meeting of the fall (beggining of December). We were to work together this winter. I didn't really speak to her that day. I added her on FB and saw she had a boyfriend

At the party on the week after, I felt she was totally into me. We spoke a bit. During the rest of December we only chatted a bit on FB but it seemed to me she was interested. Then came January. She was flirting like crazy (gaze, tests, attitude, etc.). She broke up with her BF 2 weeks ago. She didn't want to tell me what happened but seemed happy to tell me she was single (>>Yay not friendzoned! ).

On the same week, big engineering party in Montreal. We didn't spend much time together at the party but her gaze and smiles and all were clear. I presented her to one of my friend (the one I thought there would have been something with last spring, if you guys remember). They hated each other (lol).

Since she's from Montreal she didn't take the the bus back to Sherbrooke but her and I still supervised the bus entry. She left when we left and texted once she got home to tell me she was okay. This was friday night.

We chatted during the weekend and on Sunday night she told me there still was something between me and my friend. I told her no (I'm over her, but seems my friend isn't over me...) but she didn't want to believe me.

Then it started going bad. She started to ignore most of my text/fb message or taking a very long time to answer them. The daily flirting still continued as strong though. Asked her out on Tuesday night but she had some stupid excuses. At the party on Thursday night, we didn't spend much time together again but everyone could tell she was totally on to me.

Friday night was our first dinner with the SU people. 3 guys for 8 girls. Yeah fun night! I slept at her place. We didn't have sex (I didn't want to go that quick so I didn't make a move) but cuddled a lot and...she was very affectuous. The next morning she didn't really seem happy I was there and sent me off quick. She's renting a room in a house and can't have people over so I could understand. We were really drunk on the evening.

We chatted in the early afternoon and I saw her in the union room at the end of the afternoon. She was flirty and all.
Then she just started not answering my texts. We had a group activity on the night but she cancelled it saying she was sick. I tried to get a hold of her but no answer. She finally messaged me she was just a bit sick. Meh.

Then yesterday she totally ignored me. Saw her during the afternoon at school but she was cold.
She talked to me around 9 PM. I invited her to do something but she had some stupid excuses again.
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[Slivius]

Sounds to me like you're being toyed with.
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Also known as Sliv, Slivvie, Quilvius, Slivendiferious, and slivijizzisious

Ruilus wrote:

Holy hell. Yesterday was a blur of wine, whiskey and brandy. I can't remember where I left my sofa.

[Jimbob the Shameful]

kill everyone you love

[Slivius]

[Jimbob the Shameful]

it worked for hitler ......just kiddin. peace

[Sânta Claus]

craig. real talk? kinda upset that you didn't like the song I made for you.
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Don't bro me if you don't know me.

[IXA]

Things between my ex and I are so on-and-off it's getting on my nerves.
One day we'll be comforting each other and it'll be great...but the day after she tells me I'm insufferable and makes up tons of reasons to hate me when I've actually done nothing.

She's also been going on a few dates with other guys but nothing serious, and she has admitted she still has feelings for me even 5 months post-breakup. I just wish she wouldn't be so stubborn with it all and decide if she wants me or not.

On the other hand, I've been trying to have a good semester with time to myself to get over her but we broke up on good terms and honestly I feel like we do both still love each other. As far as being myself goes, I distance myself from her which in turn pulls her back to me more.

Just a frustrating situation. :T
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JOKER! GOOOOOOOKAIGER!

[JCMS]

[PrettyKitty]

I was gonna say that she might be worried you're not gonna be that into her if she's available often. Scarcity factor and etc.
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I know it's never easy. But nothing ever was.

[JCMS]

[Slivius]

How I see it, though I tend to overthink things (feel, don't think!):
Possibilities in no particular order:

• She's just very insecure about all this
  
• She's toying with you
  
• She's also interested in another guy and didn't want to give him the idea that she's into you
  
• She has a split personality
  

The last one isn't meant in a serious way but you might just be a very unlucky person.
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Also known as Sliv, Slivvie, Quilvius, Slivendiferious, and slivijizzisious

Ruilus wrote:

Holy hell. Yesterday was a blur of wine, whiskey and brandy. I can't remember where I left my sofa.